Open Letter To Ray J. on the Song “I Hit It First”

Hello young brotha. I hope this letter finds you in good spirits. I hope you are doing well, and I hope life is treating you well.

I wrote this letter as a response to your latest song entitled “I Hit It First”. First off, you really have a good voice. You definitely have talent.

However, despite your claim that you’ve “moved on”, I believe this video is a testament that you haven’t completely gotten over Kim Kardashian. There’s nothing wrong with it. You never get over the people you loved or made love with. Yet, making a song about it in the way that was done was kind of tactless. I mean no disrespect, and it has a good beat, but the lyrics were disrespectful not only to Ms. Kardashian, but to you as well.

Please, hear me out for a minute. Again, this is not meant to diss you, and I know that you must be feeling some pressure from critics who say similar things. Not all of them are meant to clown you. Some people see that you have talent and they didn’t want you to abuse it.

You see Ray J, you may know that the music industry is very selective as to what gets played and what demographic they have in mind. Most of the time in this day and age, when it comes to black artists in the mainstream, it only matters if there is a glorification of sex, material possessions, cash, drugs, violence and disrespect for women. Why? Because it sells. It’s not entirely the fault of musicians or the music executives and agents. The consumers are to be held accountable as well.

I digress. The song “I Hit It First” – from the title alone – sounds almost like there’s some envy going on. Again – it seems you are not quite over Ms. Kardashian, and again, that is okay. But the song – the way it’s worded – may not have been the wisest move to express your feelings. Then again, you may be over her, but like they always say, actions speak louder than words, and that song and video is telling the world different.

Ray J. with Kim Kardashian look-a-like in the "I Hit It First" video.
Ray J. with Kim Kardashian look-a-like in the “I Hit It First” video.

Plus, it has some pride there, as if you are happy to say that you were the one to deflower Ms. Kardashian while her lover-come-lately are in some way subordinate. No disrespect to her, but you may not be the one to “hit it first”. You are the one who helped put the spotlight on her with your sex tape. That much is certain. But, uhhh…I don’t know if you were really her first.

Let’s face it. Kim Kardashian is a beautiful, wealthy woman. I don’t know her personally, but she may have a good heart. Any man would be lucky to be with her. Now, she’s settling down with Kanye West and is building a family with him. I’m sure you wish them the best in their future with the new addition coming up as I have.

I hope I’m not being too judgmental here, and please don’t think that you are singled out. I, like many others, see that you are gifted and talented, and like you mentioned, this is part of a bigger project. I really hope and wish you all the best that it goes in the right direction. You are still young, and you should enjoy life to the fullest. Your fans and supporters only pray that you will enjoy it to the fullest without any regrets. Still, in the end you know what’s best for you.

Peace and take care.