By Seattle Slim
I don’t want to get into too many tawdry details, because they are so many when it comes to Kat Stacks that it’s hard to keep up. If you don’t know who she is, I consider you blessed because it probably means you haven’t been caught up in the wasteland that glorified and dehumanized this girl all for some piddly little internet celebrity. For those of us who have visited black celebrity blogs to pass the time, then I am sure you know who this gal is.
Quite frankly, the fact that she mentioned that she slept with Lil’ Wayne got her some notoriety on the white blog circuit for a minute, but when she went to slightly less relevant rap cats, it was a wrap. White folks know a Drake, Jay-Z, and Lil’ Wayne. They don’t know–and I’m sure most of us discerning black folk don’t either–what or who a Lil’ Twist is or even what a Young Money is save for its two highly irritating “stars” Nicki Minaj and Drake.
Kat Stacks first got what seemed like everyone’s attention when she released videos to the coonery propaganda machine that is WorldStarHipHop.com. She even set up a website and twitter (none of which I will link here because it’s just not what she needs right now) to further her “groupie” career. She regaled us with tales of tawdry sex–hell, even prostitution–with rappers, both relevant and hopelessly irrelevant. She wasn’t kind about it either. She was very biting and naturally, that wouldn’t fly with these damned near feral commercial rap cats. Some guys kept it classy–I guess–and others took it further.
Right before Memorial Day weekend, she was attacked at a club by two to three black men, one of them affiliated with rappers Bow Wow and Fabolous. She was beaten and then grabbed like she were a common whore who offended her pimp or her john, and told to apologize to the camera. It was hard to watch and I got angry. I was angry at her but I was livid at these cowards who would attack a woman.
As you can see, nothing has changed. Many Twitter beefs later, she found herself once again at the end of a jumping and beatdown/attack, this time by goonettes who told her to say that she lied. Several black blogs ran with it, and while I can’t be too harsh (they’re just trying to make a buck), I am tired of seeing it. This is, simply put, wrong; this is immoral in the level of lechery it’s reached.
One person commented, “Why are there always cameras present?” I have to ask myself if this person has forgotten that they are living in the 21st century. Cell phones, most of them armed with cameras, are everywhere. Couple that with people who are thirsty enough to want a filthy 15 minutes of fame on sites like WorldStarHipHop.com and other black blogs, instantly you have televised beatdowns of a helpless woman who is by herself.
I don’t care if this is real or not. I don’t care if it’s staged or not. Both are problematic. Both are disgusting. Both show a side of our youth and ourselves–particularly our community at least from cyberspace–that is ugly and vile and obsessed with schadenfreude. Some of us are so dark in our hearts from years of abuse, mental and/or physical, that we say that we don’t care because she’s a “whore” and a “slut” and she put herself in those situations.
If this is real, we are seeing someone who is obviously on some substance (and she has admitted that she has a criminal record–proof was online–and that she has mental issues as well) or in a very dark, horrible place. If this is an act, then she’s the only one laughing, and so are her lackeys, because she has managed to elicit hate from the young black collective or misguided appreciation for her antics.
I’m not saying that Kat needs to be praised for being irresponsible, indiscreet and possibly an unfit mother. Promiscuity for the fuck of it is not something to be praised or admired. It’s fucking with no discernment. But I don’t think that our disdain for her lifestyle, real or fake, should ever warrant a chorus welcoming and praising her dismantling on camera.
So this is my appeal to the black blog heavyweights out there. Please do not engage. PLEASE leave Kat Stacks alone. When a video pops up on Twitvid or WSHH or Youtube or wherever, leave it alone. Don’t even open it, and if you do, please don’t post it. Let her disappear because as long as you keep broadcasting, people will keep watching, and Kat will be beaten, attacked and possibly seriously injured, if not killed.
If this is fake, really leave it alone. Is this the kind of production we need to be supporting? We can’t even get good, in-depth movies or television shows about black people save a handful, and then we complain, but yet still Kat Stacks gets thousands upon thousands of views, and no one asks to boycott her?
Is it worth making a buck off of someone’s problems? Remember, Kat Stacks is a pseudonym for a woman that is a mother. She is troubled. She is not right within, fake or not faked. Would you have liked to be filmed at the lowest point in your life? Would you have liked to be exposed to all so your faults, and we all have them, could be critiqued by people who don’t know you?
Yes, she is putting out videos. Yes, she is talking shit. And? How does the old saying go? “If a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?” Let her talk to herself so that maybe she can stop to hear herself when you ae no longer listening. Hopefully then, she will be able to focus on the fact that what she’s really saying in her videos is “I need help. Validate me because I don’t love myself enough to do so.”