Breast Milk: A Sexual Fetish? No, Seriously?

I’m gonna tell you a secret about me. It’s something that makes me self-conscious and there’s nothing I could/would do about it because I don’t believe in screwing around with my lady parts unless it’s in the process of screwing around. My breasts leak milk. There! I said it. *looks away uncomfortably* I gave birth to my first child many moons ago and my breasts filled up with milk at a point in time during my pregnancy as is expected. I gave birth to my daughter and she was breast fed and bottle fed for her first six months of life. I researched and was taught how my body produced my child’s food and how good it was for her to have the nutritional benefits of breast milk in her diet. I stopped breast feeding her when I wasn’t able to keep up with her appetite and so I stopped…or so I thought until a lover mentioned how sweet my breasts tasted. Hmm..they “should ‘dry up’ at some point” is what the Dr. told me. Years later I bumped into a door hard as hell and had two wet spots stuck to my hard nipples as proof that my breasts hadn’t yet stopped producing milk. It took only one asshole to over react once he realized he inadvertently lapped up my breast milk during foreplay for me to become self conscious about it. I still get anxious as soon as a lover touches my breasts in any way. Not that the rest weren’t curious/enthralled/turned on by it. This still confuses me so I thought I’d bring this to you fine folks. Erotic lactation, also known as Lactophilia is a person that gets sexually turned on from breastfeeding. The terms adult suckling, adult nursing, and adult breastfeeding have interchangeable meanings. Some partners share an adult nursing relationship where an adult feeds from the woman’s breasts. A couple in an exclusive relationship can be called a nursing couple. “Milk fetishism” and “lactophilia” are the official diagnostic terms for this specific fetish. Traditionally both the breasts and nipples are highly erogenous zones, both for men and women. Nipple and breast stimulation of a woman is a common aspect of sexual arousal. Though sensitive and capable of giving great pleasure the nipples of males are not as sexualized as females in the Western Culture. Humans are the only primates that have females with permanently enlarged breasts after puberty; other primate species are only enlarged during pregnancy. Scientist guess that the breasts grew as a frontal counterpart to the buttocks when primates began to walk upright. Breasts are evolutions counterpart to the booty; prominent in order to attract males. Another possibility assumes that the offspring had a better chance of survival if the mothers were to receive physical pleasure from nursing their babies. Never thought of that; shall I now mention that I never minded breastfeeding. Though I heard some women say that breastfeeding was uncomfortable or even painful; I compared it to another pleasurable function my breasts served. Do with that what you will. Breasts may also have evolved as a way for men to visually note that a woman had reached “maidenhood” or rather the age at which time she would begin to compete for sexual selection among the available men. Breasts may also have developed to act as a cushion for infant heads, or may have been a signal of fertility, or to elevate the head of the child during breastfeeding to prevent suffocation. Unintended milk flow (galactorrhea) is often caused by nipple stimulation and it is possible to reach normal milk production exclusively by suckling on the breast. Nipple stimulation of any sort is noted in reducing the incidence of breast cancer. So shout out to all those breast men out there. You keep us healthy! Because female breasts and nipples are generally regarded as an important part of sexual activity it is common for couples to go from licking breasts to suckling milk. STATS: In 2005 the London The Sunday Times gave a report of a survey that showed that in 25% to 33% of all couples the male partner had drank his wife’s breast milk. The men did so on purpose as an act of sexual enticement. Since the European Middle Ages, a multitude of subliminally erotic visionary experiences of saints have been passed on in which breastfeeding plays a major role. One prominent example is the Lactation of Saint Bernard of Clairvaux where the Virgin Mary is shown spraying breast milk into the eyes of Saint Bernard. It miraculously cured his eye infection.
While lactation does appear in pornography, it is considered taboo because of its association to incest and children. Most breast pictures are without milk both in and out of pornography. You won’t often see a picture of a woman’s breast with expelled milk like this one right here. Some people may confuse enjoyment of breast milk with infantilism which is the fetish of a partner taking on the role of a suckling baby. The entire act is about being pampered by “Mommy”; it involves wearing diapers, soiling them, allowing oneself to be bathed like a baby; discipline and reward may also be involved. BDSM can involve breastfeeding a submissive partner as a reward or milking, the taking of submissive milk at the will of the dominant. There were times during my ‘club days’ when I would spray milk across the room as a ‘trick’. It was usually met with enthusiasm and a request to do it again which was funny enough but what tripped me out the most was the amount of men and women who were willing to ‘taste’ breast milk. How many of you sitting here reading this right now would be absolutely livid if you found out your partner had suckled breast milk at some point in life and has now been kissing on you with those same lips. I’m still working on how I feel about breasts and their little unique feature but I will say that every time I hear someone use that clichéd ass joke “Got Milk” you’ll understand why I bust out laughing. I was told that there was some type of medication I could take to make them dry out but who wants to do anything considered ‘drying out’ to their breasts? So, until the next time I get enough focus to write a post..what say you? Are you for or against breast milk? Is breast milk just simply milk and should I grab the cereal on my way back to bed? Should I duct tape them before sex so I don’t skeeve anyone out again?
****Tracy Renee Jones is a social scientist, writer and an artist. Also writing under the name The Kinky Courtesan she writes a sexual fetish exploration and urban erotica blog based on her own former life as an adult entertainer. More of TRJ’s erotica work can be seen YouTube and also on Tumblr. She also runs The Trippie Hippie which is a lifestyle blog about holistic recipes, art, design, music and urban culture. You can follow her on Twitter @tracyreneejones (during daylight hours) and as @thekinkycourtesan (NSFW/adult).
No breasts were hurt during the creation of this post.