The Cleveland Kidnapping: Fifty Shades of BDSM

The Cleveland Kidnapping: Fifty Shades of BDSM

Fleeting snippets of  news sound bites declaring the horrors faced by the three women allegedly forcibly kidnapped and forced to live with their captors for 10 + years have been over all the networks and especially the  national news aka cable news outfits.

In all that I have heard and read – I have yet to hear or see mention of the BDSM aspects of the situation that continue to come out on a consistent basis.  It is somewhat amusing to hear the horrific conditions described that include obvious BDSM elements but nothing being said about that. Allowing the public via main stream media to shape the discourse on this always winds up rather badly. It is especially interesting in light of the popularity of the whole “50 Shades of Gray” phenomenon that has taken off.

Police negligence aside, reports of women being “forced to crawl around naked in the back yard with leashes and collars on” and descriptions of chains and other restricting devices being found on the premises where the women were found speak all kinds of volumes. Apparently, no one has the balls enough to speak on it though.  One of the conundrums of those who engage in BDSM or “lifestyle” related activities is because of the “stigma” usually associated with those engaging in such activities; many people will not publicly acknowledge those activities or their involvement. This is the true tragedy of situations like this because things like this happen not only because no one acted – namely the police department. They also happen because secrets are kept and people don’t speak.

Clear point to make this situation is neither the fault of nor indicative of those who wish to engage in Ds/Ms or related activities. As with most things you are always going to have someone who takes things too far or who is on some other agenda altogether but uses something and twists it unrecognizably for their own purposes.

castro-brothersThe faux prudes who tsk tsk and say this is the fault of those people are the same people who think Gays and Lesbians are evil abominations etc. and so on. Meanwhile, many of those same “moral activists” who condemn anything outside of their definition of normalcy are hanging out at the dungeons and clubs decked out in latex.

To the 50 Shades of Grey people, this stuff like anything else is not all fun and games and personal responsibility as always is of tantamount importance. Understanding what you are getting involved in as well as WHO you are getting involved with still is important and probably even more so in today’s society.  There are predators out there that are seeking and their involvement in the lifestyle is more of a sidebar. Take note this is not a lifestyle “thing” this is “I am a sick predator who likes teens” thing.

One thing is for sure, living in the closet and keeping secrets never usually winds up leading to anything good. Being who you are and living the way you choose is the real freedom. I am so sure there are a “few” people out here who can relate to That analogy….

But ya’ll aint hearin’ me though…..