Comments on: SPERM DONORS, SPERM BANKS & CHILD SUPPORT

By: Dirty Red

Dirty Red — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 18:08:00 +0000

Damn good post.
I am like you, I believe strongly that a man has to be there from the time the child gets pushed out, to the time that child has a child of their own. And then they have to be around still. Being a Father is a lifelong thing. That is the only thing that should have the label “till death do us part.” Just giving money is not good enoungh. I think that they should revamp the laws. Instead of putting the fool in jail,they should force them to go to PTA meetings, mandatory time at the park, school sports activities,correcting homework and making sure that the child gets tucked in at night. Money is not enoungh. Time is more important. You don’t have to stay with the “sperm bank” but you damn sure have to maintain your investment that you put into the bank.
I also agree with you about the term “sperm doners”. It goes back to the saying that women love to throw out,all men are dogs. Well, there would not be any dogs if there were not any bitches.

By: Kit (Keep It Trill)

Kit (Keep It Trill) — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 14:27:00 +0000

I have two thoughts.

One, I think the kids do benefit both economically and psychologically when the daddy helps out with child support unless the mother is blowing it on herself.

Historically, men did not pay for their bastard children, and this caused a lot of pain in England for those women and their children as there was no welfare and women couldn't get decent jobs and many turned to whoredom. A great movie with this as a subplot is Les Miserables. Liam Neesom and Uma Thurman starred in it; I saw for the 2nd time recently since my daughter had to do an essay on it. You'll get an idea of what I'm talking about if you rent it.

But you're dead right, the privatized prison system - which is nothing less than a neo-slave plantation - benefits when these men are locked up. And systemic racism makes it hard them to go to good school with well-equipped sports teams and later, have enough good jobs for everyone who wants one. Thus, the cards are stacked against you at birth.

Second, I hate the term sperm bank. Gee-zus, it's so disrespectful and dishonest. If women insisted on condom use 100% of the time, this would cut down on the over-whelming majority of accidental pregnancies and STDs. Problem is, most young folks don't have the maturity to realize this and/or the discipline to do it.

As they say, if you play, you pay, one way or the other, and so do the kids.

By: 10-acious_D (predatorius politicalis)

10-acious_D (predatorius politicalis) — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 10:03:00 +0000

Hmmmmmmm, man sometimes I think we was separated at birth or something cause our lives damn near mirror each other…Anywho, Imma do ya one further…I didn’t meet my father until I was 18! Needless to say he never did shit for me! My stepfather never did shit for me either, except kick my ass whenever he found a half a reason! I’m so glad he was a happy drunk or I would have done a Melendez on his ass! But getting to the question I also think it should be for recently divorced people with kids. More than likely if they didn’t just hand out checks every time a girl got pregnant maybe some of them would think twice. There is no incentive not to get pregnant nor married for that matter, and we see punishing the father is not working, time to try something new! I mean in IDEAL world everyone takes care of their responsibilities but this is not that world!

The truth of the matter is…I am probably going to take a little heat for this…but short of rape the sex was given away…Now apply that to this situation and you got your solution. This is where that personal responsibility comes in! BUT…You cannot legislate morality! Good Post!

PEACE!