Comments on: Parenting: The Case for Only Children

By: msladydeborah

msladydeborah — Sun, 20 May 2012 19:32:00 +0000

I don’t know how I missed this post. I am the only child and so is my mother. Nothing pisses me off me than to have someone automatically assume that I was spoiled because it was just me. This is a myth created by people who probably often wish that they were the only one in their family circle. Believe me when I tell that by the time I was born, the art of raising an only child was well mastered by my maternal family. I’m not the only solo child in my family. There are several of us in my generation. We were raised by a group of folks who fully understood that no one would cater to our whims, and our parents damn sure didn’t.

The thing that seems to not be obvious about only children when we become adults is our ability to do for ourselves. If you are a parent of one or more children there is a truth that still stands on solid ground, if you raise a child in the way that they should go, they will not soon depart from it.

I often find myself laughing at my adult friends who cannot stand to be alone or have no clue how to prevent boredom. I have had to keep myself company for many decades. I actually prefer to be alone than to have a crowd of folks in my space. I am very self-reliant and I am not afraid to do things solo. This can be a real advantage because it does not stop me from going places and doing things that I like. I have friends who will not go anywhere without someone else going with them.

There is nothing wrong with having one child. My oldest was an only child for the first seven years of his life. He was reared in the same manner as the rest of the solo children in our family. He has one child and she is being reared the same way.

By: RiPPa

RiPPa — Mon, 12 Mar 2012 19:39:00 +0000

But here’s the problem: making the general assumption that all female only children are created equal. I give you props for at least admitting that you’ve maybe missed out on some good catches by applying your theory. But seriously, it’s not even that deep – people are people,

By: Tracy Renee Jones

Tracy Renee Jones — Sun, 11 Mar 2012 04:02:00 +0000

Funny as fuck, coming from an only child in a foster home full of children situation, wait…I’ll have to explain that later.

Good luck with the little girl. I got one and still deciding if I’ll have another, she’s 21 now, but hey, never say never…I’ll just say, NOT YET!

By: Phlip

Phlip — Sun, 11 Mar 2012 01:59:00 +0000

Never claimed to NOT be warped, but I would not call it narcissism.

I didn’t wake up one day and decide “I ain’t dating only children” without giving it a puncher’s chance at least. With enough of the “me and me only” vibe that I got was enough for me to call it enough, cut my losses and leave that headache for someone else.I can only speak to my personal experience, and I am pleased with where that the decisions those experiences have driven me.

Sure, I will be called all kinds of names, but so be it. I’m a big boy and won’t die as a result.

By: Beattitudes56

Beattitudes56 — Sat, 10 Mar 2012 23:32:00 +0000

The assumption that a woman who is an only child is “spoiled”, and an undesirable dating prospect speaks to several levels of ignorance. Sadly, it has reproduced and one can onky hope the genes on the other side of the family cancel out the intellectually challenged genes.

Preferences based on actual FACTS is one thing, selection based on dim bulb assumptions based on limited experience is something else altogether.

Signed,
An only child who is unspoiled.

By: RiPPa

RiPPa — Sat, 10 Mar 2012 21:59:00 +0000

Having kids have a way of changing the way we look at things. I think the notion of not dating a woman because she happens to be an only child is kinda warped and dare I say reeks of borderline narcissism. But hey that’s just me, and to each his/her own, bro. LOL